Cortny’s Story: Surprised by Restoration

August 03, 2020

On a day in 2009 that began like any other, Cortny Bean began experiencing intense abdominal pain. Fearing she had appendicitisâ€”or something worseâ€”she drove to the emergency room. When she arrived, doctors quickly discovered the source of the pain: she was in labor! Within a few hours, she gave birth to her son Braxton. Cortny was shocked. Before then, she had no idea she was pregnant. She felt utterly unprepared for motherhood. She wanted to give her newborn son a chance at a better life and decided to give him up for adoption. But the surprises kept coming. Braxtonâ€™s father was unwilling to sign adoption papers and wanted to assume custody. Knowing this wasnâ€™t the best option for her son, Cortny decided to keep Braxton. One day, Cortny was a young single woman. The next, she was a mom. She was alone and in the middle of the biggest emergency of her life. She didnâ€™t have a crib, baby clothes, diapers, or anything else that her baby needed. She needed help! Cortney found the support she needed through <a href="https://therestorationhouse.net/">The Restoration House of East Tennessee</a>. Founded by Daniel Watson in 2007, The Restoration House (TRH) walks alongside low-income single-parent families by providing transitional housing and support from teams of allies, family advocacy services, and youth development programs. <figure id="attachment_3162" aria-describedby="caption-attachment-3162" style="width: 1024px" class="wp-caption aligncenter"><img fetchpriority="high" decoding="async" class="wp-image-3162 size-large" src="https://staging.chalmers.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Screen-Shot-2019-09-30-at-12.00.46-PM-1024x583.png" alt="Lori Haskell" width="1024" height="583" srcset="https://staging.chalmers.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Screen-Shot-2019-09-30-at-12.00.46-PM-1024x583.png 1024w, https://staging.chalmers.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Screen-Shot-2019-09-30-at-12.00.46-PM-300x171.png 300w, https://staging.chalmers.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Screen-Shot-2019-09-30-at-12.00.46-PM-768x438.png 768w, https://staging.chalmers.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Screen-Shot-2019-09-30-at-12.00.46-PM-1536x875.png 1536w, https://staging.chalmers.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Screen-Shot-2019-09-30-at-12.00.46-PM-2048x1167.png 2048w" sizes="(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px" /><figcaption id="caption-attachment-3162" class="wp-caption-text">Lori Haskell</figcaption></figure> â€œThe book <a href="https://staging.chalmers.org/books/when-helping-hurts/">When Helping Hurts</a> influenced The Restoration House,â€ says Lori Haskell, Director of Programs at The Restoration House. â€œThe principles around this idea of restoration with God, self, others, and creation permeate everything that we do.â€ When Cortny came to The Restoration House, she and Braxton began a journey with a community of people who welcomed her in ways sheâ€™d never experienced before. She began learning about her worth and discovering gifts she could use to serve her community. <h3 class="p3">Overcoming Financial Challenges</h3> When moms like Cortny arrive at The Restoration House, financial struggles are often a significant part of their journey. Thatâ€™s why TRH offers a <a href="https://staging.chalmers.org/training/faith-finances/">Faith & Finances</a> financial education ministry as part of their program for single moms. Lori Haskell was one of the first people the Chalmers Center trained when Faith & Finances launched in 2011. Since then, The Restoration House has partnered with local churches to offer Faith & Finances for mothers in their program every year. â€œWhat I love about Faith & Finances is that itâ€™s geared for low-income learners,â€ Lori says. â€œIt helps create relationships and a safe place for moms to learn.â€ As Cortny participated in Faith & Finances at The Restoration House, she began to shift her mindset about money and relationships. â€œThe way I had always looked at money is that your worth is equal to how much you have in your bank account,â€ Cortny says. â€œWhat I learned is that your worth is not determined by your money.â€ Through Faith & Finances, Cortny began to see money as a resource God was using to accomplish His work in the world. She embraced new spending and saving habits that more closely reflected the things that were priorities in her life. <h3 class="p3">Moving Toward a Better Future</h3> When Braxton was born, Cortny knew she didnâ€™t want to be a struggling single mom when he was growing up. She wanted him to be free from the burden of anxiety about finances. To create that kind of stability, Cortny had to work long hours at a retail job. It paid the billsâ€”but as Braxton grew older, Cortny realized she wasnâ€™t the fun, energetic, and involved mom she wanted to be. After experiencing Faith & Finances and learning how to budget, make hard sacrifices, and invest in her future, Cortny had the confidence and peace to step into the unknown. Thanks to the new habits she learned in Faith & Finances, Cortny was able to save enough money to quit her retail job, go back to school, and get her real estate license. Today, sheâ€™s able to provide for her and Braxtonâ€™s needs through a job that offers her the flexibility to spend more time with him. <h3 class="p3">Becoming a Mentor to Others</h3> After Cortny graduated from The Restoration House in 2013, she wanted to give back and help support other single moms. Lori invited her to get trained to facilitate Faith & Finances and share her story with other mothers in the program. â€œWalking with people in relationships through the class is such a reward for me,â€ Cortny says. â€œMy personal experience being a single mom helps me relate to them.â€ In addition to leading Faith & Finances, Cortny also joined the board of The Restoration House. As a graduate, she brings the voice of personal experience to the ministry as they make decisions. When Braxton was born, Cortny never imagined she would one day become a mentor and a guide to other single moms. Itâ€™s been one more surprise in a story full of surprisesâ€”a story of Godâ€™s restoring power in her life.

Posted in Stories

Cortny’s Story: Surprised by Restoration

Comments

Leave a Reply Cancel reply